I KNOW DAVE

YOU KNOW DAVE

If you're married to 'Dave', or are his girlfriend, brother, sister, mum, dad, any near relation, or simply a mate, don't despair. His life may be spinning out of control because of drink, but there are ways you can help him get it back on track.

IT WON'T BE EASY BUT HERE'S SOME ADVICE TO HELP GET THINGS STARTED…

Talk to 'Dave' when he is reasonably sober and tell him calmly about your concerns. You will know when this is safe to do.
Listen to him. Find out how he feels about his drinking, and how it helps him.
Encourage him to look at the effect alcohol is having on his life rather than asking him to accept a label such as ‘alcoholic’
Talk to a friend or family member you feel comfortable with, or seek help from your GP or an alcohol counsellor.
Be consistent and clear about what action you will take if it still happens.
Ensure that you make space in your life for things that help you to feel good.
Seek support for yourself

THINGS TO AVOID

Trying to control 'Dave's' behaviour i.e. by taking his drink from them or pouring it down the sink.
Making it easier to drink by buying alcohol for him or providing the money for it.
Covering up for 'Dave' or rescuing him from difficulties he has got into because of drinking.
Joining in the heavy drinking, as it looks like you think it's ok.
Making ultimatums unless you are prepared to carry them out.

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